Happiness

A New Way Of Life

Hygge – the Danish not-so-easy-to-define word for happiness, coziness, nostalgia, and contentment – is a big part of why Denmark is consistently ranked as one of the happiest places in the world. We, as Canadians, on the other hand, seem to be on a constant pursuit of happiness, yet don’t rank anywhere close to the Danes. What gives?

Maybe – just maybe – instead of pursuing the classic Canadian dream, minimalism, capitalism, or whatever new fad is trending, we should instead pursue the tried-and-true notion of hygge. We know it works, so why not? We’ve got nothing to lose.

Luckily, incorporating aspects of hygge into your life is easy because you get instant gratification. That’s because one of the most important principles of hygge is living in the moment. So all of these things will make you feel good right now.

Ready to embrace hygge and live like the Danish do? Here are things you can do to add hygge to your life:

Dim The Lighting

Hygge is all about the lighting – warm, deep, dim lighting. The fluorescent and intense overhead lighting that has worked its way into our Canadian homes and offices just doesn’t work for the Danes.

In fact, for them, the ideal lighting comes from fireplaces and candles. The yellowish glow, the flickering, even the noise adds to the feeling of hygge.

So open up the fireplace tonight and pull out some candles! And if you’re an anxious worrier like me, don’t stress! There are battery-powered candles that give you the exact same effect, but without the fire hazard…and they’ve got timers!

Make More Soups

Hygge is achieved through simplicity and indulgence. If it makes you feel cozy, even better. If time and thought has been put into its preparation, you’ve got triple the hygge! So what better way to experience (or intensify) hygge, than by making a homemade soup.

So pull out your crock pot and make a stew that will simmer all day. The smell will be amazing, the soup will taste delicious, and you will be indulging without getting too indulgent (if you know what I mean).

Dress To Impress And Be Comfortable

We, as Canadians, are obsessed with dressing to impress and too often it comes at the cost of our comfort. So time to put your thinking cap on and find a way to embrace comfortable clothing without making yourself feel like a slob (because you need to feel comfortable too!).

If you really want to channel your inner hygge, you can start by investing in a really, really comfortable pair of socks. The kind of socks that almost classify as slippers. The ones that you can’t wait to get your feet into after a long day. Those are hygge.

Read A Real Book

Your comfy socks are on, your stew is simmering in the crock pot, so now it’s time to read by yourself…the old fashioned-way.

Get a real book – not your Kindle, phone, or iPad – and read in your favourite cozy nook. Turn your phone off. Let this just be time to relax your body and stimulate your brain.

Read whatever you want. Fiction, non-fiction, romance, suspense. Whatever YOU want.

And don’t feel like it has to be a new book! Pull your Harry Potter collection off the shelf and reread your favourite parts. Grab your favourite classic and reread it one more time!

If It Brings You Joy, Add It

By now, we all know the Konmari Method of cleaning your house – if it doesn’t bring you joy, get rid of it.

Well, the hyggelig (Danish for hygge-like) way of cleaning your house is similar, but with one very important twist – if it brings you joy, add it.

Yep, you heard me right. You now have permission to pull your cat figurines back out of hiding, find those horrible pants with holes that everyone (except for you!) hated, and fill your home with things you love.

Be Active Outside

We all know that exercise is good – it makes you healthy, happy, clears your head, blah, blah, blah. So we schedule an hour here or there to go for a run or take a cardio class.

Unfortunately, that’s not the key to happiness…or hygge.

To add more hygge to your life, you need to make exercise fun – like, so fun you don’t even call it exercise. And it needs to happen outside.

So go for a hike, make a snowman, explore the beach, ride your bike.

Doing this doubles your hygge. Here’s why:

There’s something special about being outside. Fresh air and nature are important elements of hygge, so spending a lot of time outside doing something fun will create instant hygge.

The doubling occurs when you come home. You’re tired, but satisfied, so your mind and body will want nothing more than additional hygge. You won’t even have to think twice. Just put on your comfy socks, make a cup of hot cocoa, and settle into your cozy nook for the next chapter of your favourite book.

Make Your Gifts

Giving someone a gift is always a good way to bring happiness to your life as well as theirs. To take that happiness to the next level (the level of hygge), make a gift for them.

I know this is intimidating. Even more, I know this is time-consuming. But THAT is what makes homemade gifts so hyggelig – for both you and the person receiving the gift. A ridiculous amount of time is typically put into making homemade gifts, which adds a lot of thought to the present, but also gives you time to do something out of your normal routine. It’s a break for your mind and body.

Start A Tradition

One of the biggest components of hygge is that warm and cozy feeling that comes with something nostalgic – like waking up on Christmas morning or spending the day preparing for Thanksgiving. These traditions pair naturally with hygge…so why not make more of them?

Whether you start a completely new one (like a special family vacation in the middle of spring) or just build off of one you already have (like adding a mid-day family movie to Christmas), adding a new tradition to your life will definitely increase your hygge exposure.

And the absolute best part of this hygge addition is that you’re spreading the hygge-love to the family and friends that will be joining you.

Attend More Social Get-Togethers

One of the easiest and quickest ways to add hygge to your life is to simply attend (or hold) more social get-togethers.

Strong relationships help make hygge happen, so spending time with friends and family sets you up for more and more happiness.

If you want the most hygge possible, try to keep the gatherings to a small number of people (4-6). This makes the get-together more intimate and you’re more likely to let yourself relax.

Vacation More

I know this is easier said than done, both because of the cost and the time. But THIS (paired with the next section below) is possibly the biggest – and most impactful – difference between the Danish and us.

You need to vacation more. Your hygge depends on it.

It does NOT need to be expensive. It does NOT need to be elaborate. You don’t even need to necessarily go anywhere! Just take time to vacation.

This doesn’t mean take a few days off from work to catch up on chores, finally get your car detailed, and schedule that doctor appointment you’ve been pushing off.

You need to do something fun, new, and relaxing. Something with your family, friends, or just alone. Something that will give you a warm and fuzzy feeling when you look back on it.

Work Less

I know – you can’t vacation more if you work less. You can’t even work less if you don’t vacation more.

Except that you can. And you have to…at least, you do if you really want to create hygge in your life.

What I mean by “work less” is this:

Leave when you say you are going to leave. Don’t stay late. When you’re home, stop working. Prioritize your non-work life the same way you prioritize your work life. Take sick days when you are sick. Set clear expectations with your employer (they may surprise you!).

This may not happen overnight, but again, it is one of the defining characteristics of the Danes and one of the biggest reasons they experience so much more happiness than we do.

So for the sake of hygge, don’t blow this one off! Even if it can only work its way into your 5-year plan, it will be worth it.

I hope you’re able to incorporate at least a few of these hygge ideas into your life! Come back and let me know how they work out for you.

Listen More

When To Listen When Receiving Negative Feedback

Despite all of it’s recent popularity, entrepreneurship is not the typical path. When you decide to go it alone, there will always be people that will tell you you’re crazy, that you’ll fail and lose everything, and that you should just go and get a normal job and stop making things difficult for yourself and your family. Naturally, if you want to succeed as an entrepreneur, you need to be able to block out this negative energy and push forward. However, somewhere along the way, the idea that you should block out the opinions of those who simply think entrepreneurship in general is too hard is too risky came to mean that you should block out any and all detractors, and that’s a belief that can be incredibly harmful to your company’s success.

While you do need to be able to push past naysayers who just want to see you fail or are generally negative people, you can’t just ignore anyone who doesn’t sing your praises in the name of being a dedicated entrepreneur who will never give up on an idea. Some negative feedback is incredibly valuable and listening to it could be the difference between your success or failure.

So, how do you tell the difference between someone who wants to rain on your parade because he or she would never have the guts to build what you’re building and someone who has genuinely helpful and insightful feedback about why you’re a little off track with your product or service or business model?

Ask yourself a few questions:

Is the person negative about entrepreneurship in general or about your idea? If someone thinks anyone, anywhere, starting any business is crazy and will fail, you can probably ignore their negativity. However, if this is someone who supports entrepreneurs and entrepreneurship but has reservations about the specifics of what you’re building, listen up. You may or may not agree with them in the end, but be sure to understand what gives them pause before deciding. They may see something you’re missing.

Does this person have experience? This could be experience as an entrepreneur, experience in the industry you’re targeting, or any other experience relevant to what you’re trying to build. If someone has a deep understanding of what you’re up against, be sure to listen to their reservations.

Is this person part of your target market? Not everyone is going to understand everything that could be a big hit so you shouldn’t weigh everyone’s opinion equally when you’re asking for feedback on your product or service. If your ideal customer is a 13 year old girl, it’s not all that important that your 70 year old neighbour Bill thinks your product is no good. If his 13 year old granddaughter and her friends also thinks it’s no good, however, you’d better take a second look at whether or not your customer actually wants to buy what you want to sell.

Do you respect this person’s opinion about others’ ventures? It may not be a nice thing to say, but everyone has people in their lives whose opinions they simply don’t value that much, and that’s fine. However, if this person is someone whose opinion you generally respect and whose judgement has been sound when evaluating others’ endeavours, you should definitely listen to any concerns they have about your business.

At the end of the day, it’s the entrepreneur’s job to believe in what he or she is building, even if few others do, and to have the strength, confidence, and stamina to push forward, whether or not there is wide support at the beginning. You shouldn’t take every negative opinion to heart and pivot every time someone isn’t in love with what you have to offer. However, you can’t simply ignore every negative comment either. Using these questions will help you decide when you should politely set aside someone’s negative energy and when you should take a closer look at whether you’ve gotten off track somewhere along the way and should heed a critic’s advice.

My Creative Space

Since moving into my home…there is this one particular area by the kitchen which I’m not really sure what to call it…I guess a person could use it as a breakfast nook or even a sitting/reading area. You know how you always have one room in your house that you use as your designated miscellaneous junk room?!? Well, this spot served as that room for me. There is a nice size bay window with lovely views of the side of my neighbours house as well as their backyard. I never open the blinds in that spot because as much as I have sweet neighbours I still enjoy my privacy.

So it dawned on me one morning as I was working on my laptop in my living room…why not turn that little space in the kitchen into my office for my business. I had a vision and I knew what I wanted it to look like when I was done with it. First things first, I had to get rid of the pink blinds that the previous owners had up. And instead of putting curtains in place of the blinds, I purchased decorative window films from Lowes instead. I wanted to have natural light coming in through the windows during the day and it worked out great doing it this way.

Next up, I needed a desk that wasn’t going to take up a lot of room since it’s a small space. I went down to Home Depot, Lowes and Staples and didn’t see anything that caught my eye. The selection at all three stores were very limited. So I decided to look online and sure enough I found what I was looking for on Best Buy’s website of all places. They had the exact same desk online at Lowes and Home Depot as well but Best Buy had the best price by far. And this particular desk is only available online. I love a great deal when I can find one. It just takes some shopping around and a little bit of time. But it’s so worth it when you can save yourself $100, that’s huge!!! Especially if you’re a business owner or someone who is looking to save a few dollars where you can. No shame at all…I admit I rarely pay full price for anything. I mean why would I !?!? when I don’t have too.

I ordered the desk on a Sunday evening and it arrived Thursday morning that same week. I had a busy week so didn’t get around to putting it together until the weekend.

But this is how it looked when I got to it:

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I wasn’t expecting it to be as heavy as it was. It is very well made and sturdy. There were quite a few pieces and it took about 2 hours total to put the desk together. The instructions that came with it were straight forward and easy to follow.

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This is my finished office space. I am so happy with the way it turned out – I feel inspired and love that I have this cozy, warm and inviting space to get creative with my work and writing.